One for the ladies

Natasha2
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edited October 2016 in General Chat #1

Do you still have your wedding dress?

Starting on a declutter of the attic and the question always asked by OH...why are you keeping this?

Am I going to wear it again? No. 

Have I daughters who might wish to use it? No.

It has sat happily in its box for 36 years even moved house with us 11 years ago.  

I'm too superstitious now to get rid of it. 

Going to try it on later, it might still fit. 

 

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  • Natasha2
    Natasha2 Forum Participant Posts: 306
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    edited October 2016 #2

    Sorry could a mod amend the title, should read.

    One for the ladies.

     

  • Bakers2
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    edited October 2016 #3

    Still got mine, nearly 37 years. It lives in top of the wardrobe hadn't thought about it until read your post. Daughter married had her own dress, certain my son won't be interested. My mother still has hers after 63 years, still fits. I haven't tried mine
    too scared!!! Seems silly to keep but like you a bit superstitious so won't get rid of.

    As an aside our family still has wonderful christening gown, not sure how it came to us as only agricultural labourers/ service type background,at least four generations baptised in it. Sadly my granddaughters not christened, maybe later, but it won't fit
    then!!  Have to say crisp cotton with tatting centre, yards of it, I was grateful I didn't need to iron it again

  • Kennine
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    edited October 2016 #4

    The thread title " One for the Ladie " and then talking about wedding dresses, conjures up all sorts of humerous responses. LaughingLaughing

     

  • Bakers2
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    edited October 2016 #5

    The thread title " One for the Ladie " and then talking about wedding dresses, conjures up all sorts of humerous responses. LaughingLaughing

     

    The vargaries of CT

  • JillwithaJay
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    edited October 2016 #6

    Hi Natasha - I belong to a charitable group who knit and sew for those less fortunate.

    We are very fortunate to receive donations of wedding and bridesmaids dresses which are turned into the most adorable angel gowns.  If you ever decide to part with your dress, is this something you might like to consider.

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  • Natasha2
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    edited October 2016 #7

    Its a lovely idea Jill

  • Takethedogalong
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    edited October 2016 #8

    Still got mine. Veil, headdress, even the underskirt that came with it. I do take it out to look at occasionally. All carefully covered in its protective hanging bag. Still some confetti in there as well! Does it fit? Sadly no, too much happy living. Very
    much of its era, but I do love it. My OH wouldn't want me to part with it. Mum has my bouquet, dried and preserved. Memories of a truly lovely day, even the dog enjoyed it!Happy And
    came on honeymoon with us!

  • Goldie146
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    edited October 2016 #9

    I still have mine, 46 years on. I made it in the week between leaving college and getting married. Plus the handmade headdress. I know they are no use, and I haven't opened the case for twenty years, but they are a part me and I couldn't part    with them. 

    Theres also my Christening robe, made by my Nan from some 19th century material. 

  • HelenandTrevor
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    edited October 2016 #10

    I hired my wedding dress, so don't have it now. Mind you I only had 10 days to prepare for our wedding! Surprised

  • SteveL
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    edited October 2016 #11

     mrs Steve here.

    Haven't got my dress from 40 odd years ago. Was a manic sewer in my 20's and cannibalised it for all sorts of things. The satin made a lovely skirt.

    probably wouldn't still have it anyway as I'm also a manic declutterer Kids used to tell their friends 'don't sit still mum will tidy you away!'

  • redface
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    edited October 2016 #12

    MOH can still fit in hers, tried it on two weeks ago. Sadly the material is a bit hacked about (like Mrs Steve's) so won't win any catwalk prizes at the next fashion show.

  • Bakers2
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    edited October 2016 #13

    I hired my wedding dress, so don't have it now. Mind you I only had 10 days to prepare for our wedding! Surprised

    Special licence???  Was it a rush job or were you swept off your feet?  Don't need to answer on the grounds you may not want too
    Wink

  • tombar
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    edited October 2016 #14

    I was married in a registry office and wore a suit as at the time I could afford either:

    1.  A full white wedding and all the trimmings; or

    2.  Put down a deposit for a house.

    Just to let you know that my wedding outfit (a suit) I used afterwards, and I've still got the house with OH's stuff cluttering it all upHappy

  • Takethedogalong
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    edited October 2016 #15

    Good for you tombar, we prioritised on spending on our wedding. Went with what bits were important to us, not what we thought would impress others. As far as I know everyone had a good time, lots of fun. Course we would do it differently nowadays, but that's
    'cos we have lots more to spend!Happy

  • IanH
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    edited October 2016 #16

    I've still got the suit I wore for our wedding (38 years ago). I doubt it would still fit, because I was as thin as a rake in those days.

    Could probably make another suit out of those massively flared trousers though........

  • HelenandTrevor
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    edited October 2016 #17

    I hired my wedding dress, so don't have it now. Mind you I only had 10 days to prepare for our wedding! Surprised

    Special licence???  Was it a rush job or were you swept off your feet?  Don't need to answer on the grounds you may not want too
    Wink

    We had been together for a good few years and our eldest son was almost 2, hadn't really given marriage much thought.  OH booked the registry office as a surprise.  Smile All
    ok though 24 years later! Laughing

  • statusMoty1
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    edited October 2016 #18

    My mum made mine into a beautiful christening gown and both my daughters were christened in it.....hoping it might be passed down to grandchildren........if they ever arrive

  • bestboy
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    edited October 2016 #19

    My new lounge suit is long gone and considerably outgrown. I have no idea what happened to the dress

    but 45 years on I still have the O.H.  

    Winner!

     

  • Jood
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    edited October 2016 #20

    I put mine in a charity sack years ago, not feeling sentimental about it at all. We celebrated our silver wedding anniversary this year though and hubby wore the suit he married me in! He does have other suits but felt pleased he could still fit in it. I
    probably couldn't have fitted in my wedding dress! 

  • brue
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    edited October 2016 #21

    I was only 7st 2lb, just a mere slip of a thing, all wedding outfits long gone...but nearly 40 yrs on have kept the best bit.Smile

  • JillwithaJay
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    edited October 2016 #22

    I had mine made by a local dressmaker and later altered and dyed so I could wear it for 'posh functions'.  It's now long gone as has OH's suit and the photographs are well hidden.
    Wink  We had a very 'economical' wedding due to family circumstances at the time and didn't have a honeymoon but, 46 years on and we're still together.

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  • Bakers2
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    edited October 2016 #23

    I hired my wedding dress, so don't have it now. Mind you I only had 10 days to prepare for our wedding! Surprised

    Special licence???  Was it a rush job or were you swept off your feet?  Don't need to answer on the grounds you may not want too
    Wink

    We had been together for a good few years and our eldest son was almost 2, hadn't really given marriage much thought.  OH booked the registry office as a surprise.  Smile All
    ok though 24 years later! Laughing

    Very pleased to hear, how romantic. Wishing you many more years to come

  • KASTARIS
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    edited October 2016 #24

    Don't have mine no more. When my mum passed away 7 yrs ago we had to clear her house. My wedding dress had hung in one of her wardrope for 33 yrs... I can't even remember what I did with it.....still wedding dress gone but still have the man
    Kiss

  • artyboo
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    edited October 2016 #25

    No sentimental attachment to my first dress but I did wear my second wedding suit several times after the big (small, we eloped ) day. I remind him every day of how lucky he is

  • Merve
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    edited October 2016 #26

    Do you still have your wedding dress?

    Starting on a declutter of the attic and the question always asked by OH...why are you keeping this?

    Am I going to wear it again? No. 

    Have I daughters who might wish to use it? No.

    It has sat happily in its box for 36 years even moved house with us 11 years ago.  

    I'm too superstitious now to get rid of it. 

    Going to try it on later, it might still fit. 

     

    Write your comments here...nothing wrong with that Tash!

  • Tammygirl
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    edited October 2016 #27

    I've not long since got rid of my wedding dress, I have carted it around for 45 years and 17 house moves, UK to Germany, back to UK, back to Germany then finally Scotland to our own house. Why? who knows but its gone now and so has the veil. 43 years ago
    I loaned someone my headress as she couldn't find one she liked, never saw it again Frown it was lovley too.

    Still got the OH and no neither of us would fit in what we got married in, we often jokingly say we are illegally married to xxx lbs Laughing

  • ValDa
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    edited October 2016 #28

    I married for the first time in 1969 (47 years ago) but never kept my dress - it was hired - a great solution for anyone with hoarding tendencies!  It had to go back within a day or two or the ceremony.  It was a fabulous gown, and would have cost an arm and a leg to buy, but was cheap to hire. I had no storage issues, and no sentimental or superstitious attachment to something which after all is only 'a very fancy dress'.  

    My mum in law gave us her dress, which she'd kept as a precious thing for 75 years, wrapped in tissue - unfortunately it was in such a state that (having no sentimental attachment to it) sadly it went straight in the skip.  What will the 'keepers' expect their children to do with the 'precious dress'.? If they expect the children will recycle it, or dump it, then do the deed now and remove it from the numerous more important things they'll have to decide what to do with.  Give it to charity, or an organisation which can make something useful from it, even if it's only a fancy fish-filter..............!

  • cyberyacht
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    edited October 2016 #29

    I hired my wedding dress, so don't have it now. Mind you I only had 10 days to prepare for our wedding! Surprised

    Your dad's not used to loading shotguns then? Wink

  • Bakers2
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    edited October 2016 #30

    I married for the first time in 1969 (47 years ago) but never kept my dress - it was hired - a great solution for anyone with hoarding tendencies!  It had to go back within a day or two or the ceremony.  It was a fabulous gown, and would have cost an arm
    and a leg to buy, but was cheap to hire. I had no storage issues, and no sentimental or superstitious attachment to something which after all is only 'a very fancy dress'.  

    My mum in law gave us her dress, which she'd kept as a precious thing for 75 years, wrapped in tissue - unfortunately it was in such a state that (having no sentimental attachment to it) sadly it went straight in the skip.  What will the 'keepers' expect
    their children to do with the 'precious dress'.? If they expect the children will recycle it, or dump it, then do the deed now and remove it from the numerous more important things they'll have to decide what to do with.  Give it to charity, or an organisation
    which can make something useful from it, even if it's only a fancy fish-filter..............!

    Eminently sensible advice there ValDa. In my case its cos we have the room, all tidied away with Juliet cap and bouquet. I'm the first to say ridiculous BUT if anything happened to hubby I'd always wonder about the timing. Nearly lost him 22 years ago with
    a heart attack when the children were young. We've been very grateful for every day since and try not to take each other or life for granted. However silly it seems I'm going to hang on to dress etc. His suit was worn for work and long since gone so no silly
    qualms about that. 

    PS I put children's offerings and things from nursery etc in the loft and it took ages before they could go, use to neither man nor beast, in the end I'd sorted things into various bags and chucked them on the next attempt without looking again. Hubby worse
    than I am . We've lived in this house 32 Years, previously wed shifted lots and decluttered every time.

    I'm heartened by tammygirl saying she's got rid of hers now but still has hubby.

     

  • ValDa
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    edited October 2016 #31

     

    1.  PS I put children's offerings and things from nursery etc in the loft and it took ages before they could go, use to neither man nor beast, in the end I'd sorted things into various bags and chucked them on the next attempt without looking again. Hubby worse than I am . We've lived in this house 32 Years, previously wed shifted lots and decluttered every time.

    2.  I'm heartened by tammygirl saying she's got rid of hers now but still has hubby.

     

    1.  We still have a cupboard with the toys my sons had when they were children - including a Puffalump, a Boglin, a Tough Ted, Jean P Bear (named after a French friend, Jean Pierre) and others.  I've asked them if they want to take them and keep them at their homes, and the answer is always 'No', so there they remain.  When (or if) they have children then I will really insist that they're taken 'home' and either used again, or recycled.  

    2. I didn't keep the dress, and unfortunately didn't keep the husband either (though he is still alive!!!)