Don't some people want to have Christmas this year

JohnM20
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edited November 2020 in General Chat #1

Before someone accuses me of being a curtain twitcher let me straight away I am not. I've been working a lot in my front garden in the last week or so, rain permitting, so I tend to see what is happening in the square where I live. I tend to be observant as I'm Neighbourhood Watch street coordinator. Of the 18 houses in the square I've seen one have different visitors every day since lockdown started another has had visitors on two days and one has had a single visitor yesterday. This last one was the only one where they appeared not to go inside. These are the only ones that I have seen.

It amazes and disappoints me that people can be so selfish and thoughtless for others. Talking to my neighbour a few weeks ago, the one to have visitors each day in the last three, he commented that no-one would know where he was going or what he was doing. No-one, he said, polices the situation. He has probably got a point with his last comments but I thought we should all police ourselves, not see how far we can go in breaking the law.

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  • EmilysDad
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    edited November 2020 #2

    my next door neighbour had loads of visitors during the first lock down .... their kids, their grand kids, their work colleagues, her mum .... just about anyone they knew really. Their excuse was that they believed they'd already had C=19 from a skiing trip right at the start of the year. 🤔 I din't note which days though ....

  • rutlandwarrior
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    edited November 2020 #3

    I think people have had enough of listening to rules that are plucked out of thin air or made up as they go along. The government chop and change their minds every other day and haven't a clue what to do next. People around here have visitors as normal and I often pop round next door for a cuppa as I am the only person they see. Personally come Christmas we all go round to our parents and we all have decided to do the same this year as you never know when it will be the last time. 

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #5

    "Until people realise the rules are not a punishment but a protection to hopefully get us back to some sort of normality i fear this will continue"

    Well said, Dawn. Only the foolhardy or foolish deliberately flout the rules, which are in place for our own good. They don't realise what they're doing.

  • EasyT
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    edited November 2020 #6

    The general drive of the legislation I have no disagreement. The application though I feel is poor. One example is that here in wales caravan dealerships have had to close sale, cafe, shops etc. Which makes sense. Service centres have been able to work which also makes sense. Not so in England where all aspects have been forced to close it seems.  

  • moulesy
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    edited November 2020 #7

    Car dealerships are closed but service departments remain open. The temporary extension on MOTs is not being repeated so MOT centres also remain open as do tyre centres etc.

  • EasyT
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    edited November 2020 #8

    All generally sensible.

  • EasyT
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    edited November 2020 #9

    Not sure that shutting MOT centres were however

  • davetommo
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    edited November 2020 #10

    I for one don’t believe a word they tell you anymore after the graphs last Saturday.It turns out thar they were based on outdated models. As Theresa May asked in the Commons. “Were the figures chosen to support the policy, rather than the policy being based on the figures.

  • cyberyacht
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    edited November 2020 #11

    Taking the OH's car in for its MOT tomorrow so we'll be all geared up and nowhere to go.

  • KjellNN
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    edited November 2020 #12

    Up here in Scotland ,in our area, we are not supposed to be visiting anybody, but, as informal carers for  our grandson, we are allowed to be in our daughters house to care for our grandson.

    So we are there every day this week and last week, and I will be doing various things for DD other than "caring"  .

    Does it  really matter  why we are there?

    We are not mixing with anyone else, we shop only once a week, often we bring their shopping.

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #13

    You shop so you mix with others, Kj. Your daughter and grandson will mix with others, too.

    If you and your family are happy taking the risk, so be it. 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • EasyT
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    edited November 2020 #14

    You shop so you mix with others, Kj. Your daughter and grandson will mix with others, too.

    As far as I am concerned there is a world of difference between shopping and mixing/sending time with people

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #15

    That's OK then.

  • KjellNN
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    edited November 2020 #16

    There is no ban up here on essential (food) shopping.

    DD is working from home and rarely goes out, Grandson is in nursery in the mornings.

    Whether we shop for them or not, makes no difference, We shop for ourselves once a week, no problem to get their  shopping too.

    My point is that whether we are only caring for  Callum, which is allowed, or doing other things, we are there anyway.

    There is no extra risk involved.

  • KjellNN
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    edited November 2020 #17

    We also have a son and family with 2 other grandchildren, we have not seen them in the flesh since mid  July, we keep in touch by Skype.

    We should have been  meeting up with them for Christmas at DD's house, but that is  looking unlikely to be allowed

     

  • KjellNN
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    edited November 2020 #18

    TW........if we were not to go to DD's house to look after our grandson, then she would not be able to do her work.

    Her OH is a teacher and now needs to go into school every day, he is classed as an essential worker.

    She however is the  higher earner, so very important for them that she can keep working.

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #19

    Kj, you must surely see the risk. You shop, your grandson goes to nursery, his father is a teacher - frankly, the more you say, the higher the risk appears.

    As I said, it's your choice and you have no need to justify yourself to me. I'm only pointing out the risk factors to yourself and your family.

  • KjellNN
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    edited November 2020 #20

    TW...we are aware of the risks, we are trying to keep them as low as possible.

    What would you suggest we do.

    Leave her without anybody look after our grandson so she could not work?

    How would they then pay their huge mortgage?

    Since lockdown here ended we have been allowed to look after our grandson and nothing untoward has happened.

    We do not meet or mix with anyone else.

  • cyberyacht
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    edited November 2020 #21

    Unless one goes into complete hermit mode, some interaction is practically impossible. It's just a case of risk management. My step-daughter is a headmistress. I regard her with considerable caution. Contact with other individuals are possibly lower risk but still  are kept to a minimum.

  • Justus2
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    edited November 2020 #22

    As I see it. looking at a variety of evidence locally, online and in the media, we are currently dealing with a huge range of opinions in the UK .

    Some are very cautious and keep interactions with others to essential only and certainly within the rules.

    Some keep to the rules much of the time, except for those times when they conveniently forget or ignore the need to follow those rules..

    The rest don't care about the rules and think its all a hoax, a con, no need for masks or restrictions of any kind and carry on as if covid never happened. 

    We are firmly in the first group.

  • brue
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    edited November 2020 #24

    I suppose the highest risk in your case is the teacher in your family. The same as us with a teacher daughter who moves amongst all ages at school and also an adult learning disability group. At present we only see our daughter from a distance but do some dog care for her and her partner (he's  in contact with a limited group.) It's a balancing act for some families.

    PS Some are taking mortgage breaks to get through this situation.

    It will be interesting to see how Wales comes out of lockdown and if the new restrictions prevent further outbreaks. I somehow think this is a very long battle. 

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  • heddlo
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    edited November 2020 #26

    We haven’t seen our family since July, and then it was a socially distanced day in a park.   DIL is a teacher and our 2 grandchildren are in secondary school.  Our son has advised that as they mix with so many it wouldn’t be safe to visit us. They live 180 miles away so it’s not a quick trip. I would love to see them, not on FaceTime, but appreciate his caution as we have been very careful mixing and have only had click and collect or supermarket deliveries since March. 

  • rutlandwarrior
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    edited November 2020 #27

    Not selfish just honest, look on all media outlets and there are a lot of people becoming fed up with constant lockdowns and government changing minds every other day.

  • JVB66
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    edited November 2020 #28

    The way all countries are trying to find a way through you mean

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #29

    So people being fed up excuses the breaking of rules and putting each other at risk? Yep, that's selfish.

  • rutlandwarrior
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    edited November 2020 #30

    Not selfish just differing opinion to you

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2020 #31

    Clearly.

    One of us thinks of other people, the other doesn't 🙁