Thank You costs nothing!

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  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2016 #32

    I'd love to do + 3 but I don't totally agree with the post. Laughing

  • IanH
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    edited November 2016 #33

    Very funny Laughing

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2016 #34

    Heaven forbid that the forum becomes cluttered up with pointless one line posts. Laughing

  • IanH
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    edited November 2016 #35

    Indeed! Wink

  • brue
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    edited November 2016 #36

    I'd like to thank those who step in when the going gets tough, I'd like to thank those who remain polite, who are helpful and keep things going in a friendly way.....Happy

  • Jood
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    edited November 2016 #37

    Reading through these posts I sadly feel that there has been a slow decline in manners/etiquette over the years. I've sent money/gifts to people and not even had a thank you in return. When it's children, I feel sad that the parents aren't educating their
    children at the importance of acknowledging people's kindness. I would like to adopt the philosophy that if I don't receive a 'thank you' then the gift wasn't appreciated so I won't repeat the gesture. However, this feels delicate when it comes to family dynamics
    and issues. I always like to thank people for any assistance or advice offered..as I did recently with my subject regarding butane or propane gas. How long does it take to give appreciation for valuable advice from fellow forum members who have taken the time
    to help you by responding? 

  • huskydog
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    edited November 2016 #38

    I'd love to do + 3 but I don't totally agree with the post. Laughing

    you could put ....+2.5 Smile

  • volvoman9
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    edited November 2016 #39

    I know this has been raised before but why is it that some folk ask for advice on here and do nothing to acknowledge it when it's given?

    Twice in the past week I've answered requests for information about sites, one for a winter seasonal pitch and one for a Christmas/New Year booking.

    And not a dicky bird in reply! Not even to say thank you but it's not really what we're looking for.  Makes you wonder if it was worth answering in the first place! Yell

    Totally agree M you answer a question or give advice and the OP then disappears without trace and you dont know if your advice was any use or not.To not give a reply is pure bad manners as far as i,m concerned.The very same has happened to me on numerous occasions.I,m not looking for thanks but i would like to know if my answer was of any help and if not could i offer more advice.

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  • moulesy
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    edited November 2016 #40

    Its a sad reflection on the quality of the discussion subjects on this forum now. . When we have posters startintg huffy,  insignificant and irrelevant moaning threads such as this one.

    Gone are the days when intelligent and challenging subjects were enjoyed daily by members. Sad but true.

    K Cool

     

    It's a sad reflection of the state of affairs on this forum that certain posters try to keep past petty bad feeling going by writing insulting posts like that, rather than just ignoring threads they feel to be insignificant! Wink

    Thankfully the majority of posters do seem to agree that, even on a forum like this, good manners suggest that indicating whether or not a reply to a request for information has been useful is the way to go! Happy

  • SteveL
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    edited November 2016 #41

    As V9 says, it's not so much the thank you, as it being nice to know whether your advice was useful or if a further explanation might be needed. As is obvious from several discussions, we all look at things from different angles at it's easy to misunderstand
    what has been written

  • Surfer
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    edited November 2016 #42

    Imagine how long a thread would be if every one posted a "thank you".  I appreciate the answer given if I ask a question but don't see the necessity to say "thanks" on numerous occasions because several people have offered input however maybe only one of
    the several has given the answer I am looking for.

    Wiil the others will slighted or offended because I did not specifically thank them for their input.  If I was getting the information on a face to face then yes I would go out of my way to thank them, but probably not on a forum in most cases although the
    input was appreciated.

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2016 #43

    That's a bit far fetched, Surfer.  All it takes is a 'Thanks, everyone'. 

  • Surfer
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    edited November 2016 #44

    That's a bit far fetched, Surfer.  All it takes is a 'Thanks, everyone'. 

    Even if the advice offered was poor?  Someone else may think that the correct information had been given and take that poor advice which may then have adverse effects.  Just an example but understand what you are saying and as said I appreciate all answers.

  • huskydog
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    edited November 2016 #45

    If it is general replys ,then maybe a thank you is not needed ,but i have asked for advice and some members have put themselfs out to help, and gone the "extra mile" ,that is when a "thank you" is neededHappy

  • JayEss
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    edited November 2016 #46

    Whilst not especially bothered whether posters come back to say thanks I do like it when they come back to say whether the problem has been sorted and how. 

     

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  • moulesy
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    edited November 2016 #48

    That's a bit far fetched, Surfer.  All it takes is a 'Thanks, everyone'. 

    Even if the advice offered was poor?  Someone else may think that the correct information had been given and take that poor advice which may then have adverse effects.  Just an example but understand what you are saying and as said I appreciate all answers.

    Well, in a way, that was what I was getting at. If poor advice is given wouldn't it be helpful to acknowledge the effort made in giving it, but pointing out what may have been inappropriate, both for the source of the advice and for subsequent readers?

    I think we're all adult enough to accept that we may have given wrong advice and be happy for it to he corrected aren't we? Happy

  • volvoman9
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    edited November 2016 #49

    Imagine how long a thread would be if every one posted a "thank you".  I appreciate the answer given if I ask a question but don't see the necessity to say "thanks" on numerous occasions because several people have offered input however maybe only one of
    the several has given the answer I am looking for.

    Wiil the others will slighted or offended because I did not specifically thank them for their input.  If I was getting the information on a face to face then yes I would go out of my way to thank them, but probably not on a forum in most cases although the
    input was appreciated.

    It only takes one post Surf to say if the advice given worked or not because those that gave advice would be interested to know.The type of post i think M is talking about here is when somebody (usuall new to the forum) asks a specific question and then
    is never heard from again.

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  • EasyT
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    edited November 2016 #50

    It is good to know if a problem has been solved. If there have been a number of suggestions a simple 'Thanks All'

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2016 #51

    That's a bit far fetched, Surfer.  All it takes is a 'Thanks, everyone'. 

    Even if the advice offered was poor?  Someone else may think that the correct information had been given and take that poor advice which may then have adverse effects.  Just an example but understand what you are saying and as said I appreciate all answers.

    Well, in a way, that was what I was getting at. If poor advice is given wouldn't it be helpful to acknowledge the effort made in giving it, but pointing out what may have been inappropriate, both for the source of the advice and for subsequent readers?

    I think we're all adult enough to accept that we may have given wrong advice and be happy for it to he corrected aren't we? Happy

    Nail on head, M. It's about acknowledging the input and effort of others and of course it's useful if the OP can say xyz cured the problem.

    I suspect all forums get newbies who want a specific piece of advice and, once they've got it, they disappear into the sunset without a word. 

  • volvoman9
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    edited November 2016 #52

    Its a sad reflection on the quality of the discussion subjects on this forum now. . When we have posters startintg huffy,  insignificant and irrelevant moaning threads such as this one.

    Gone are the days when intelligent and challenging subjects were enjoyed daily by members. Sad but true.

    K Cool

     

    Sorry K but i cant agree with you here.If a thread is not interesting enough for you then ignore it .What may not be meaty enough for you could well be significant to others.There is nothing sad about it this thread from what i can see its about good manners
    as much as anything else and lets be honest bad manners are unacceptable no matter what the subject may be.

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  • volvoman9
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    edited November 2016 #53

    If it is general replys ,then maybe a thank you is not needed ,but i have asked for advice and some members have put themselfs out to help, and gone the "extra mile" ,that is when a "thank you" is neededHappy

    I agree H you may have trawled through quite a bit of info to come up with a solution to a problem.What do we always we say when we give a mate advice "let me know how you get on" Happy

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  • Tinwheeler
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    edited November 2016 #55

    True, David. How many times have we see questions such as 'I'm looking for a nice site on the south coast'? Far too vague.

    It's clear sometimes that people post questions rather than do their own homework. 

  • bandgirl
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    edited November 2016 #56

    I think that if someone asks specifically for advice, it's good manners to say a general thank you for the replies. An update on the outcome would be nice, but not essential.

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited November 2016 #57

    Very funny Laughing

    +1Happy

  • ChemicalJasper
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    edited November 2016 #58

    Well I can see lots of good debate and suggestions and advice in this thread!

    .....but unless I have missed it, no "Thanks" from the OP!!! WinkLaughingWinkLaughing

     

     

    (clearly just kidding M to be clear!)

  • moulesy
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    edited November 2016 #59

    Thanks for that, CJ!! Laughing

  • moulesy
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    edited November 2016 #60

    Oh and thanks everyone else for your comments, whichever side of the debate you're on. Most have been made in an encouragingly polite and good mannered way! Wink

  • SteveL
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    edited November 2016 #61

    Unfortunately the can't be bothered attitude is prevalent in other aspects of life. Both our dentist and doctors have signs up saying how much time has been lost in missed appointments. I can't remember the exact figures but I found them staggering. Both
    send reminders in the form of multiple text messages. This system works well, and most these days have a mobile. I suppose at least on CT there is the possible excuse of not being able to find the thread again, or not getting the email reminder.