Be careful what you wish for!

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  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #32

    As per the OPs titlesurprisedwink

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #33

    Family member visits?, not clever JV. That’s inviting a disaster in these times😕

  • Takethedogalong
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    edited March 2020 #34

    With a nod of respect to the OP, forgive me if I inject some light humour!

     

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #35

    A "visit" at these times , would i suspect , be as the laid down guidelines from HMG undecided

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  • EasyT
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    edited March 2020 #37

    It very much depends on the nature of the visit. If I needed shopping done for me - as some do- I would doubtless sit outside on the patio for a natter with ample separation. 

    Some visits are essential

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #38

    That is why our dog is "tired"as every one wants to take her out for more exercisecool

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #39

    JV, ET, I was going by this🤷🏻‍♂️

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #40

    & another clean one👍🏻

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited March 2020 #41

    That was my understanding of the situation, Rocky. We should not visit family, friends or neighbours in their homes, or anywhere else. Shopping should be left on the doorstep, I hear.

    I'm afraid it’s the thoughtlessness of some that's going to aid the spread of infection. 🙁

     

  • EasyT
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    edited March 2020 #42

    Yes R2B but I personally would apply my own common sense. Some need deliveries of food or medicine an it is not uncommon, from what friends have said, that those delivering have stood at a gate or half way across a lawn to have a short talk. 

    On Friday our grass cutting chat sat on a wall on part of our covered patio wearing a face mask and gloves for a 10 minute natter. He was sat 12 feet from me and 9 feet from OH. No matter what generality the government dictates it is up to all to risk assess and to use good judgement

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #43

    Going to & actually is aiding the spread😕. 
    some folk will always have an excuse to believe rules are not for them🤷🏻‍♂️

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #44

    I’ve yet to see your personal caveats on Govt dictats ET🙄

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #45

    That is not the official idea, as the meaning is IN the homes of relatives,

  • Cornersteady
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    edited March 2020 #46

    yes indeed, our eldest daughter lives by herself only about 20 minutes walk away but we haven't seen her (well apart on on the mobile and computer) and nor do we expect to. 

  • EasyT
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    edited March 2020 #47

    You have no need to R2B. 

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #48

    That is what a "visit" is the understanding of sensible people, not IN the relatives propertyundecided

  • Rocky 2 buckets
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    edited March 2020 #49

    Yes I do. I intend to be part of the solution not the problem👍🏻

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited March 2020 #50

    What are you talking about, JV? It matters not whose home.

    The message is clear - stay away!

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #51

    Its like all the latest HMG "dictacs" it is a blanket instruction   ,that as usual  not a fits all circumstances ,undecided

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #52

    OH dearundecided, how do these older relatives get their necesities?

  • Tinwheeler
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    edited March 2020 #53

    Don’t show your pretended lack of understanding, JV. 

  • EasyT
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    edited March 2020 #54

    I assume that some rely on general broad governmental advice and pay no attention to the advice of experts in the field to further consider the general advice JVB. I have in recent days spoken with 3 of my neighbours and all at a distance of 15 feet or more. Were we putting each other at risk in an open environment? Experts in the field say not. 

     

  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #55

    You are probably right ,as i said the governments "rules" as so oft stated the guidance of wise men but the obeyance of otherswink

  • LeTouriste
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    edited March 2020 #56

    AD, like yourselves we are thankfully fit and able to take care of ourselves.  My comments about the apparent “neighbourly disinterest” were simply an observation, and I would imagine that there are many similar areas where the same disinterest exists.  Very sad for any vulnerable people living in such areas.

    We stood on our doorstep at 8:00 pm last Thursday and joined in the applause for the NHS and other emergency services.  Clapping from nearby streets could be heard, along with a very few close to our home. You could say that this fits in with my previous comments about the lack of neighbourliness.

    When I was a kid we lived in a district of terraced houses.  I was told to do little jobs or run errands for any aged neighbours, with strict instructions not to accept any money in reward.  Looking back, I am pleased to remember that this was accepted as normality. The principle has stayed with me ever since, and in recent years my wife has frequently warned me for helping someone where physical effort is unwise at my age.

  • Takethedogalong
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    edited March 2020 #57

    I have just done my emergency delivery for my Mum. Pick up her meds from Pharmacy, knocked on door, left on doorstep, quick word from gate, all ok here and there, that will be it for a month, other than via social media contacts. I normally care two, three days every week for my Mum, who has dementia. My sister has taken the whole lot on, willingly, and we have a decent plan in place. All deliveries stop at the door, everything dealt with appropriately.  

    I cannot imagine what someone in a similar condition to Mum, living all alone is going through at the moment. Our community has made sure anyone vulnerable, be they young or old, has contact details, or is being looked out for in whatever way helps. Even a wave through a window and a smile has enormous value at the moment.

  • EasyT
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    edited March 2020 #58

    I actually 'visited' my eldest daughter last week. She is at risk as she has had heart problems and is diagnosed as being in heart failure although recent tests have shown some improvements to her general condition. Much to her shame she was breathalysed at around 6.30am one morning a month ago and was just over the limit from a previous drinking session. She was suspended from driving for 12 months, given community service and a counselling session series on substance abuse. Originally the community service was to be in house removals but impossible for her. 9 months ago she had to sit on the bed to hoover her bedroom. So a place in a charity shop, She is supposed to visit her probation officer every two weeks (80 mins each way on public transport) and the counselling sessions (within walking distance) weekly I think. Counselling is now a 5 min phone chat and the probation officer visited her today. Communication was a wave through the window and 5 mins on the phone. 

    My reason for travelling the 25 miles to daughters place and the 5 miles each way to hospital was to avoid her using public transport. Because OH had been in the passenger seat that morning to take her Yaris in to garage I provided gloves and I wore a face mask. 

    What I found ridiculous was that she had a scan with staff in PPE but in the phlebotomist department she had to insist that the person taking the blood sample gloved up and wore a mask

  • Cornersteady
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    edited March 2020 #59

    I assume you posted your OP to get a discussion going and I have tried to discuss and to seek clarity of your thinking, that, with respect, appears to change from one post to the next. Is it 'argumentative' because some (all?) do not agree with you?

    I can sort of see what your trying to say with nature doing checks and balances. The hunter prey system has been modelled very well using calculus - the hunter eats the prey and the hunter population goes up as the prey population goes down which lead to the hunter population going down which leads to the prey pollution going up and on and on... Relatively simple equations can predict what happens at any one moment in time.

    So nature could balance the 'damage' done by humans (which was your first point). But now you appear to be saying that nature is working through us humans to self destruct?

    A sort of nature saying: well the Bubonic Plague, didn't do a good enough job so let's just switch humans' intelligence on a bit and get them to do it instead? 

    That to me is just nonsense and I just don't agree with your idea that there is a guiding force like the one you describe, sorry though that no one has checked on you, perhaps just something local, plenty round here have.

    Stay safe

     

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  • JVB66
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    edited March 2020 #61

    Your "Visit" to your mother is just the caring "visit" is what i would consider an essential journey, and  happens in this area and many others i would expect,  at this very dangerous times ,

    Although some posters would not want that to happen by  their posts