Miserable or unsociable people on site
What is it with some people?
Having recently returned from a week at Pandy I am asking myself why some people bother going away. The couple we were pitched next to spent the entire week avoiding eye contact with anyone and moping about the place.
For me it enhances the holiday if I can interact with people. I don't need to know their life story, but a chat about where we've been in the area or what our plans for the day are, or even the weather would be nice.
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Everyone is different and has a different outlook and priorities in life. Perhaps your neighbors were more than happy in their own little bubble. When I am solo I often don't talk to anyone for a day or two mainly as I go out early and return late and
anyway I'm quite happy with my own company. I would never snub anyone deliberately. as the old saying states, it takes all sorts0 -
I realise it takes all sorts, but he never looked happy and seemed to be down for the entire week.
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I guess you don't know what is going on in other peoples life, maybe he/she really is miserable and could well have good reason to be. Whilst some people keep themselves to themselves, some say hello and some talk about the day. Each to their own.
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Some of the cheeriest people are the most depressed. As long as your body language says "I am here if you want me" there is not a lot more to do.
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Maybe they have something terrible going on in their lives and the trip in the caravan was an attempt to get away from reality.
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I try and be sociable on site with a hello and smile, some reply and some don't, if they don't well it's their loss, their holiday their ways. I'd rather the sullen ones than troublsome
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Maybe they just didn't like the look of you!
Me, I'll chat to anyone - too much according to Mrs M!
You're probably right there, the looks of distain were pretty evident.
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You form an opinion about somebody that may well have a perfectly good reason to be the most misereable person in the world!
You'll never know!
You can never know what other people are going through. I am usually very sociable and pass the time of day with anyone I meet on site. On the morning I had a phone call to say that my Dad had passed away, we packed up as quickly as we could. I couldn't
have cared less about the weather, or making small talk with our neighbours!0 -
We have a dog and I'm always up reasonably early to give her a walk and whatever the time of day there's always someone walking to the shower block or a fellow dog walker. I always say "Good morning" or Hello" but there are some miserable b*****s who would rather look the other way than respond. I don't want a full blown conversation or to be invited back to their van for breakfast but to me it's downright rude!
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Can't say I've ever noticed miserable and unsociable people on any club site or CL. I'm an outgoing and friendly person and will chat to anybody when on site. I enjoy having a glass of wine or a cuppa with neighbours.
I always find proper caravan Club members on site, agreeable company. After all a stranger is just a friend you have yet to meet. There may be the odd one who prefers their own company but everybody to their own.
People generally respond to a smile and a kind word.
K
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You must go to different sites to us then Kennine. I would say last weekend 75% of people I said "hello" to answered back but 25% (I think a high proportion) looked the other way.
Sometimes wonder if I have two heads!That 25% may have been replying to the one you weren't using at the time!
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I tend to say hello to a lot of people on site......but sometimes people chose not to respond. That, to me, is entirely their perogative.
I have no idea what is going on in their lives, I don't know whether they are shy or naturally reticent to socialise.
It is their decision how they lead their lives.
To automatically expect a friendly reponse to (what is to them) a complete stranger, would be rather arrogant, in my view.
Live and let live.
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So everyone has to have the same level of sociability as you.....regardless of their personal situation or nature? That, to me, is rather arrogant.
Alfred Wainwright (the well known writer) said that he found the habit of complete strangers saying 'hello' very tiresome. He adopted a policy of saying hello back to the first people he came cross, and didn't bother thereafter. He was a very popular person.
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There could be all sorts of reasons why people don't say hello, they could have hearing difficulties, learning difficulties or just not have realised you have not spoken to them. To criticise people for this could also be deemed rude and ignorant.
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We dont socialise on site, nor do we want to. We sit in our van - not outside - and are happy in our bubble.
I always say hello to folks and will chat at the tap etc but no more than that. Cant think of anything worse (for me) than invites for drinks and BBQ's.
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I tend to say hello to a lot of people on site......but sometimes people chose not to respond. That, to me, is entirely their perogative.
I have no idea what is going on in their lives, I don't know whether they are shy or naturally reticent to socialise.
It is their decision how they lead their lives.
To automatically expect a friendly reponse to (what is to them) a complete stranger, would be rather arrogant, in my view.
Live and let live.
I find myself in total agreement with you Ian.
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So everyone has to have the same level of sociability as you.....regardless of their personal situation or nature? That, to me, is rather arrogant.
Alfred Wainwright (the well known writer) said that he found the habit of complete strangers saying 'hello' very tiresome. He adopted a policy of saying hello back to the first people he came cross, and didn't bother thereafter. He was a very
popular person.not quite accurate as you have written it, this would be when he came across a party of walkers on the fells, he would say hello to the first but 'the rest would have to share it', he didn't then not say hello for the rest of the day!
he was a popular author, but was very un sociable and even rude, if you read his autobiography by Hunter Davies, and very uneasy with strangers.
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Why does the OP think that everyone on site wants to be the life and soul of the party , people are on sites for a variety of reasons ,some for holiday , and some be on site to " clear their head" . We once went away for a week on site when a family member
passed away and needed to just have some quiet time , so OP don't jump to conclusions just because that person doesn't seem to be as happy as you .......0 -
I have read Hunter Davies' biography (which is excellent) as well as many of his own books.
He seemed like a top bloke to me!
oh yes I agree
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I used to say Good Morning to everyone in the days when I used to go to Club sites, and they always said Good Morning to me . Conversations never went further than that, and so I assumed that was all that was allowed under Club site rules.
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his autobiography by Hunter Davies,
I alway though that AW and HD were 2 different people. Now I'm beginning to wonder.
AW was a misable old git, but he didn't half write great books.
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