Grief
Grief?
Interesting; I have just read a written piece on 64 things about it.
‘Grief’ assumes the person you are mourning is dead.
‘Grief assumes that the life you had before a person has died, is all but gone.
‘Grief’ assumes that person you loved is no longer there, with you, because physically they are gone.
Well let me tell you something about grief.
The person you love and shared a full life with doesn’t have to die. It just needs something cataclysmic to happen to their brain and you have lost them.
You care for the physical being. Wash them, feed them ‘change’ them and put them to bed; day after day after day.
Some of the ‘old’ person is there but primarily not. No empathy, no sense of ‘love’, no sense that you are/were a married couple that shared everything. Usually, if one hurts, both of you hurt. That is gone.
You live your life looking after a grown up spoilt child who resists if you suggest a shower. Doesn’t give a shit if you are in the middle of something; their need is far more important. Makes no attempt to be nice about a dinner you have cooked if they don’t like it. Is positively rude when they are bored when meeting people ; ups and leaves without social grace.
Grief is a loss. I am living with grief, 24/7 with no hope of it ever ending. A loved one doesn’t have to die for you to grieve.